These days, it’s not uncommon to hear about our peers changing careers, pursuing graduate studies, or even taking a sabbatical to work in Africa. This is the point in our lives when many of us begin to think about the path we’re on, and wonder if we are on the right track. If we feel lost or unfulfilled, there’s a very real chance that we can end up in tailspin. And, that tailspin, ladies and gentlemen, is what’s known as the “quarter-life crisis.”
First used in 1997 by Abby Wilner, co-author of Quarterlife Crisis, this phase of life is often marked by uncertainty and questions about one’s future and managing adulthood. The difference between normal reflection and “crisis” is that the latter tends to consume your thoughts and affect all aspects of your lives. Work plays a major role in who we are and how we live, so it should be of no surprise that our questions and anxiety tend to start in that arena.
If you’re feeling like this could be you, then you need to start planning. Some experts believe that the quarter-life crisis is nothing more than a life check. You’re simply making sure that you are taking the right steps to your ideal self. Here are four steps to help you deal with your quarter-life crisis.
1. Hone in on your talents. This is a key step at any point in your life but especially holds true right now. Those who find true success have learned how to maximize their strengths and turn them into something worthwhile. If you’re having trouble getting started, then I recommend the book, “Now, Discover Your Strengths.”
2. Create a plan. After working for a few years, this is a normal point for you to evaluate your career choice. While the questions will drive you nuts, not answering them can make you insane. Ask yourself what you would like to do. Then, start thinking of ways to achieve the next step and create an honest and doable plan to make that happen.
3. Spread your wings. Research your options. Take a class at a community college. There’s nothing worse than knowing your potential and doing nothing about it. Now is not the time to be timid with pursuing your goals and dreams.
4. Talk to someone. Whether it’s a mentor or a friend, you should share your thoughts with others. For starters, you’d be surprised how many other people may feel the same as you. Now, this isn’t about throwing a pity party and seeing who has the worst life. This step is about building a network of people who can support you and offer guidance. Websites like QuarterlifeCrisis.com are a great place to start!
While there is something catchy about calling this period of time a “crisis,” it only tends to fuel the panicked fires in your brain. Consider this a call to evaluate your life. Either you’ll learn that you’re on track or you’ll realize that your skills are best utilized elsewhere. No matter what, it’s better to know these things now versus waiting until you’re older! Right?
Good article, Karyn. Our generation has grown up quicker than those before us and technology means things move faster and change quicker than ever before. I wonder if quarterlife crisis’ are just the new mid-life crisis?
BTW, thanks for adding your blog to YPBLOGS.com.